Applications in Counseling with Transactional Analysis Approach
a. Chronological Problem Description counselee / Students
Risa (26 years) and Juminten (35 years) is a married couple
who have three children who are still small. The greatest daughter named Siska
(4 years). While her siblings twin boys named Doni and Dino (2 years) .In Risa
cultural and Juminten raised in a culture that is very much different. Risa a
Samin blacks who grew up in a family full of strict discipline and rules. While
white Juminten raised in families that tend to be free and not too strict in terms
of regulation. It is also likely to lead to differences in their views both in
educating children and division of tasks.
In the division of household tasks, Risa gets a share far
more than the Juminten. As a father than making a living Risa also have to
perform a variety of household matters such as washing dishes, washing clothes,
taking care of children, and so forth. As the head of the household Risa most
dominant in the family. While Juminten just get household chores simpler and
lighter. He is also likely to submit a variety of tasks to her husband. This
attitude may arise due to differences in views are striking between the couple
about the ideal life of a family. So Juminten tend to be passive and in order
to avoid conflict with her husband.
In any parenting they have different views. Risa who grew up
in families want their children to discipline unruly. Unlike the Juminten which
tend to give freedom to their children. In educating children Risa tend to give
more direct instruction in the form of strict orders to their children, whereas
Juminten usually give commands by asking and not telling (spoil).
This difference makes children become confused in
understanding the rules of the family. They are confused about what is allowed
and what should not be done due to disagreements between both of their parents.
Often when his father say yes to one thing, but the mother said no, and vice
versa, and occur repeatedly. As a result, children become increasingly confused
by the behavior of their parents so that they tend to be uncontrolled and do as
they wish.
b. Conclusion
To solve this case first thing to do is to equate the concept
between the couple. In addition to other solutions is also very necessary. Here
is an effort to handle the general case of cultural differences in the family,
among others:
1. Equate the concept between the couple.
Such differences need to be resolved as soon as possible and
then be agreed upon norms and values shared in the family.
2. The couple must equate their ideal picture of a family
that is good for both of them. This is not easy considering they were both born
and raised in a family that is quite different and even perhaps the opposite.
3. The couple need to create their new family structure in
which no party feels aggrieved. Sturuktur new one is expected to be a solution
to the confusion that occurred during this structure.
4. Given the children are still small where their cognition
systems have not fully developed, the children receive enough direct agreement
produced by their parents. After the parents agree on what to do, interventions
to children simply use behavioristic approach model because the model of the
approach was the one who feels most effective.
In counseling not only to describe the problem in a general
way but also using a variety of approaches and techniques in order to issue the
client really handled as best as possible. For more detailed further efforts to
address the above will be accompanied with appropriate approaches in an effort
to resolve the client's problem.
c. The accuracy of the description of the problem addressed
by Transactional analysis approach
According to Gerald Corey Transactional Analysis
antideterministik rooted in philosophy. This analysis also recognizes that they
are influenced by the expectations and demands by significant others for him,
especially because the first decision has been made during their life when they
are very dependent on others. But the decision can be reviewed and challenged,
and if the decision taken earlier are no longer suitable, can be made a new
decision. This approach has some personality structure include child ego states
(SEA), ego status of parents (SEO) and the status of the adult ego (SED).
Below is a brief explanation of the structure of personality:
a. Status of Child ego (SEA). Ego children can be seen in two
forms: as a child adjust and reasonable child. Children who adjusts manifested
by behavior that is influenced by their parents. This can cause the child
bertindaak accordance with the wishes of his parents like obedient, polite and
obedient, as a result, the child will be withdrawn, fearful, spoiled, and the
possibility of conflict. Reasonable child will be seen in his behavior as cute,
dependent, demanding, selfish, aggressive, critical, spontaneous, not to be
outdone and pemberontak.di in everyday life can be seen in case of an
interaction between two individuals.
b. Ego status Adults (SED). Adult ego states can be seen from
the behavior of a responsible, rational and independent action. The nature of
the status of the adult ego is objective, calculating and using akal.Didalam
daily life interactions using adult ego status.
c. Ego status Parents (SEO). ego status of the parents is a
collection of feelings, attitudes, patterns of behavior that is similar to how
the elderly people feel and behave towards dirinya.Ada two forms of the
attitude of the parents, the first is the parents who are always
criticizing-harm, and that the second is the parents who fondly.
Of the three ego states are cultural differences in family
cases can be handled using transactional analysis approach. Judging from SEO
that is in cases where the couple tried to instill what your client from his
parents used to apply in his new life or home life today. While SEAnya,
children imitate the behavior of parents who mistakenly.
By using the technique permissions (creating opportunities)
in transactional analysis, the client will be given the opportunity to use
their time more effectively, the client is expected to experience all the ego
states that are usually done by encouraging clients to use the adult ego status
ability to enjoy life. Besides changing the old commands or the perception of
the old and replace it with a new perception of better without eliminating the
adult ego status. The approaches and techniques are expected client can change
behavior patterns are wrong and start making a new decision in accordance with
the decision emninggalkan old that are no longer functional
0 comments